i don't know how long its been but my last post had a few people chatting :S... i didn't mean for it to be something big or attention seeking in fact, its weird, i don't usually get so many readers all at once. the point of that was not the depression its self but a way to vent, to tell someone at the least. i don't actually have depression or at least its not diagnosed. It was something i was looking at to describe how i was feeling at that point in time and one thing led to another which resulted in that post
now it was very nice of you all to offer your support, and postive messages and all the rest, but i assure you that those actions can push some one further into a depression, because its makes them feel useless.
in laymans terms
imagine you feel really sad and you have no idea why, and everyone is trying to cheer you up. a normal person would just take it and move on and by the next day..."yeh whatever". A depressed person may behave somewhat differently, you will try to cheer them up and they will feel hopeless, and then you may say things like come on *something somthing* (e.g. its not that hard or you can do this) and when they can't you make them feel useless because obviously its something everyone else can do but why can't they.
its not a matter of god either, because i have seen plenty good religious families devistated by depression, and they worst part about it all is that it can increase the need to be normal and therefore increase the feelings of uselessness.
also telling a depressed person that they are not depressed is not the best idea either, you will make them feel insane. something along the lines of "if im not depressed then how come i feel this way?? why can't i stop it??". when someone says that it really makes you question yourself. what am i thinking?? is it real?? is it all in my head??.
telling them to get over it, will most definately drive them insane and infuriate them. Again because they can't just get over it, a frustration builds.
Now obviously i have given you a few hypotheticals but in all honesty doing any of these things to a depressed person can result in the above feelings,
feelings of sadness, uselessness, insanity, frustration, anger.
and people misunderstand the situation and continue the cycle, perpetuating the depression to the point of no return.
just something you may want to consider next time :D
1 comment:
My husband lives with depression. You're right there is no such thing as saying that you can get over it or come on you can make it through this you're not really depressed. I've been married to him for 9 yrs and I still can't bring him out of depression. I can catch signs of when it's going to hit and I can help soften the blow but I can't and never will be able to stop that emotional pain that he has to deal with.
So I understand whats happening with you. I do hope that you can find some way to get through it. If you don't want therapy or drugs, then maybe you can try working out. Sounds crazy? Yeah i hate working out myself.
Take care
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